June 16, 2020 • bachelor insider
Becca Kufrin Vows to 'Create an Impact' in Apology to Rachel Lindsay
Becca Kufrin is apologizing to Rachel Lindsay and "Bachelor Happy Hour" listeners in a new podcast episode.
The Season 14 Bachelorette said last week's episode was "a difficult conversation" and that she wanted to "clear the air" in order to help take a step forward.
"I need to take a moment to acknowledge what I’ve done wrong and realize where I can do much better," Becca said. "If there’s one thing I’ve learned, it’s that you can always learn and grow and move on from a place that you might not be OK with and comfortable with. After listening to myself on the podcast, I feel like I didn’t personally recognize myself. Maybe I did recognize a part of myself and that’s something I don’t want to accept and be."
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The Minnesota native admitted she "fell short" during their conversation and that it "deserved my complete, undivided attention."
She said as part of her apology to Rachel, "I was gutted to listen to it back and not to be able to express a deeper empathy with the struggles you have lived for, and it’s something you have been fighting for and have been so vocal about in this franchise for years. I hear you when you say things need to change. I agree with you. Playing on top of Matt James announced as the Bachelor, we still need to see more diversity. I want to throw my voice behind yours to amplify that message and say, 'Let it not stop there.'"
Becca continued, "I feel like when I was trying to state my points last week, I fell short and I didn’t fully offer that support. I’m coming to you not only as a colleague, but more importantly, as a friend. You have continuously and relentlessly fought for what is right. You have continuously used your voice and asked for support in the lack of diversity that’s been seen within the franchise... I need to step that up."
She also provided come context about her emotional and mental space in the days and hours before last week’s podcast. Becca returned to Minneapolis after her grandfather passed away. During that same time, she also "received some other despairing news and loss."
Additionally, Becca acknowledged her fiancé Garrett Yrigoyen's Instagram post in which he spoke out on behalf of the police and supporting the "Thin Blue Line." Becca said, "I was dealing with trying to first wrap my head around that and dealing with discord within my relationship and what it was causing my family. In that moment, it felt like the reservoir in my brain had reached a maximum."
"I’m a human being," she said. "We all have parts of us that f--k up a lot sometimes. I did that. I don’t always know what to say. I don’t always have the right words or an answer, and that was very apparent last week in our conversation. Upon realizing that and listening to it back and grasping that, I also want to embrace the capacity and drive for change in myself."
After speaking about what she believed were her shortcomings in last week’s episode, Becca vowed to make a change and educate herself. She spoke at length about "intention" and what it means to have an impact, which occurred after some "soul searching."
She told Rachel, "Though my intention was never to cause divide on this platform, that is exactly what happened. Even though I was going into it with the best intention, everything thereafter was lacking because it left an impact that was very muted. I saw clearly that because of that, I had been exercising a privilege and I need to look in the mirror to see where I can change."
Becca shared, "Because I wasn’t proactively seeking out topics like I am now, I didn’t educate myself as well as I could have. Before last week, I wasn’t researching the differences between what defunding and disbanding the police meant. I wasn’t quite sure what terms like 'white complacency' meant, what 'microaggression' were. It’s starting somewhere and realizing where I can take my level of knowledge and grow from that and continue."
She vowed, "Moving forward, I'm only going to speak for myself from here on out."
To hear what else Becca and Rachel have to say about these important topics, be sure to listen to the full "Bachelor Happy Hour" episode now.