August 28, 2020 • bachelor insider
Taylor Nolan Explains Her Decision to Become a Sexologist
Taylor Nolan wants to end the stigma against discussing sex and sexual health, and now she’s dedicating her life to that.
Taylor is a licensed therapist and is training to become a sexologist. She spoke with "Bachelor Nation" ahead of her trip down memory lane on Monday’s episode of "The Bachelor: The Greatest Seasons — Ever!" featuring Nick Viall’s time as the Bachelor. Taylor also spoke with Rachel Lindsay and Becca Kufrin on "Bachelor Happy Hour," which you can listen to here.
The "Bachelor" alumna explained that she had always been interested in sex and the field of sexology. She shared, "Since undergrad, I remember my human sexuality class and we watched porn one day in class and I was like, 'This is amazing! This is what I need to do!'"
As Taylor pursued her interest in psychology and therapy, she said she worked mostly with substance and rehabilitation patients, believing it was "a path I wanted to go down." She was told, however, that her age and appearance could hinder her professional trajectory.
Taylor said, "So much of what I was receiving feedback on in my internship was that I’m young, I’m a woman, I’m an attractive woman, so I need to be careful about how I’m in the world of therapy and who I decide to work with. Even wearing a professional dress was inappropriate because it was showing skin."
The 27-year-old told "Bachelor Nation" she had a large interest in working with the prison population, but "that job was reserved for men or women that were older or less attractive."
She felt like she might face similar roadblocks in sex therapy because she is "a young woman and no one would take me seriously if I actually pursued being a sex therapist." Hence, she focused on general mental health therapy.
"That would make everyone feel more comfortable with who I am as a professional," she said.
Taylor continued, "Sex is such a huge part of our sexuality and our lives. I was always trying to learn about this, so it seemed so weird to me that how am I talking to clients about their exercise and their diet, and I’m not even including in here their sexuality and their relationship with their bodies, because that’s huge."
She added, "It’s always been something I’ve been passionate about, especially after the show and after my relationship from the show, getting back in touch with me. A huge part of that was getting back in touch with my sexuality and starting what felt like a sexual liberation journey."
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Taylor said that "journey" involved her "getting really intentional and specific and really exploring and experimental with specific people."
"We need to have more people studying this and having more conversations about this. I’m am the kind of person that likes to get outside the box and stir the pot, especially when I’m passionate about something," she emphasized. "Sexual health is way more stigmatized than mental health, and that really irked me because it shouldn’t be. Everyone is down to advocate for mental health and no one is losing their jobs over being an advocate for mental health, but people advocating for sexual health will lose their jobs. They will be shamed. To me, that wasn’t right."
To see what else Taylor and the rest of Nick Viall’s cast is up to these days, be sure to watch Monday’s episode of "The Bachelor: The Greatest Seasons — Ever!" Monday at 8 p.m. on ABC.