March 09, 2021 • bachelor insider
Serena Pitt Explains Her 'Choice' to Tell Matt James 'You're Not My Person' During 'Bachelor' Breakup
Serena Pitt stopped by “Bachelor Happy Hour” to chat with Becca Kufrin and guest co-host Tayshia Adams about her experience as a contestant on “The Bachelor” Season 25.
During her interview, the gorgeous publicist reflected on her breakup with Matt and admitted that her delivery was “harsh.” As Bachelor Nation will recall from the March 2 installment of the show, Serena took a blunt approach to calling it quits with the handsome lead, telling him, “I don’t think that you’re my person.”
“I definitely went into the breakup prepared, as prepared as you can be,” Serena said of her decision to part ways with Matt after Hometown Dates. “Breakups are really emotional and I wanted to have an idea of what I wanted to articulate, to ensure that I gave him as much closure as possible and wasn’t overcome by emotion and then wasn’t able to successfully communicate to him.”
She continued, “I didn’t know how he was going to react, if I’m being completely honest. You can know someone — but going through a breakup is a whole other thing and we have never been through something similar to that, so it was really a first. And his reaction was something I kind of just left open in a sense.”
After Serena pulled the plug on their relationship, Matt was at a loss for words. Following an extended pause, he managed to reply, “I don’t know. It sucks to hear that, but I felt it after I left that conversation with your family that there was something off with you. It just stinks. I don’t know.”
Serena explained to Becca and Tayshia that she made a concerted effort to be “as straightforward as [she] possibly could” when ending things with Matt — who must choose between his final two women, Rachael Kirkconnell and Michelle Young, on next week’s finale.
“I know that my delivery was a little bit on the harsher side with me saying, ‘You’re not my person.’ That wasn’t an accident. It was a choice,” the Toronto native said. “And I agree that it’s a harsh statement and it really, really killed me to say it because I knew it would hurt him.”
She elaborated, “I felt being as clear and direct as possible about where I stood in that relationship and what my feelings were and why I was leaving was the best thing I could do for him because he has… other women. He doesn’t have weeks to ponder. We don’t have time to have multiple conversations. It’s one conversation and then I’m gone. And then he goes on and dates other women.”
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