Spilling the tea.

Bachelor Nation fans saw Charity Lawson and Dotun Olubeko fall in love and get engaged on Season 20 of “The Bachelorette.”

Since their time on the show, the two have been enjoying time with their family and friends and have moved in together in New York City.

Now, the couple stopped by for an exclusive chat with BachelorNation.com, where they dished on all things wedding planning, mental health, and their Bachelor Nation BFFs.

Check out our full conversation with the engaged couple below! 

Bachelor Nation: Your recent engagement photo shoot got us SO excited for your wedding day! Can you share any new wedding details?

Charity Lawson: Most of the important details about our wedding, we aren’t gonna give those away yet! We announced that it will be in the fall of 2025, but now we’re trying to time it all out. The Nigeria wedding is probably going to be second, but we want them really close in time, so planning-wise we have to lock in the Nigeria wedding and then plan the U.S. wedding celebration for a week before. We don’t want them too far apart; we want them close together. We don’t want it to feel like we’re getting married in Nigeria and then in the U.S. seven months later or something like that. In the U.S., we’re talking about doing it in Northern California, which is where Dotun is from!

BN: That is so exciting! We can’t wait for both of your big days. Have you thought about the guest list yet and will there be any fellow Bachelor Nation stars in attendance? 

CL: Yes, there will be Bachelor Nation in attendance! I actually think there will be a few familiar faces in our bridal party as well… maybe two or three in the bridal party. 

Dotun Olubeko: For me, it will be at least two of the groomsmen as well! 

CL: And this will be both at the wedding in Nigeria and here. We’re taking Bachelor Nation with us! 

BN: Love that so much! You are so many people’s favorite Bachelor Nation couple and fans look up to you two; is there any other Bachelor Nation couple that you look up to? 

CL: I feel like the people that we connect the most with and are also really good friends with are Zach Shallcross and Kaity Biggar. I look up to them and how they’ve transitioned and handled their lives with balancing their public and private lives. They are still connected with Bachelor Nation but also have a lot of privacy. Kaity and I also talk a lot about wedding stuff and we also talk about how she’s back at work as a nurse. I am also wanting to go back to work in therapy, so I’ve been leaning on her for a lot of advice with that. 

DO: And yes, same for me with Zach. I am also still working in my job that I had before the show. It can be stressful to do both. I am just grateful that my work has been super cool and I really set out to maintain my job and not quit. I have been pretty much full time since a few weeks after filming and so I look up to all the other couples that stay grounded too.

BN: That makes a lot of sense! You just mentioned it, but how do you decide what stays public and what stays private in your relationship? 

CL: I’m the one who’s more involved in social media than Dotun is. He’ll pop in there, but I post more. So if we are out at an event or doing something, I usually initiate taking a photo or video as long as it’s not too invasive of our personal lives. Things like the details of our wedding are obviously a bit more private. Every time I do a Q&A, people ask for the date, but that’s just something we don’t want anyone to know for our privacy. When you see the pictures, you’ll know that’s when we got married. There are some things that are just sacred to us.

BN: Absolutely! And when it comes to your mental health, how do you support each other’s mental health being in the public eye?

CL: Dotun is really good at helping me when it comes to my usage of social media and how much I am on there. You just get an influx of DMs and comments coming off “Bachelorette” and “Dancing with the Stars,” so there are all these little filters I have put in place. But even outside of those boundaries, sometimes it’s not enough and Dotun can see the toll it takes on me. So he just reminds me that I don’t have to respond and I don’t always have to engage with social media or even be on there. I am really appreciative of that from him. It’s something we’ve talked about in couples therapy and how he’s been so supportive and it helps keep our relationship strong.

DO: It can be hard to see how it impacts her because the way my brain works. That stuff people say online doesn’t have the same impact on me. I am human, so sometimes it affects me, but it’s hard for me to see her as this wonderful person and so much better than the mean commenters, but she takes it so personally. She knows I’m always there for her.