September 22, 2025 pillow talk
Raven Gates & Adam Gottschalk Share How They Keep Their Marriage Strong During Hard Times
Celebrating love.
Bachelor Nation fans saw Raven Gates Gottschalk and Adam Gottschalk meet and fall in love on Season 4 of “Bachelor in Paradise.”
Since then, the two have tied the knot, welcomed their son Gates in January 2022, and welcomed their second son, Max, in July 2023.
The couple loves to keep people updated with their lives on social media, often posting about their family, marriage, and fun trips together.
Now, Raven is sharing how she and Adam manage to keep a strong marriage even through hard times.
In a new post online, she shared, “Statistics show the 5 years after becoming parents are consistently rated as the hardest on marriages. It takes work…but you can fall in love again and again…and again. And again…and again.”
Raven then went on to express, "I've always heard people say the toddler years are the hardest on marriage, and it’s true, nearly 70% of couples feel the weight in these early parenting years. The sleepless nights, the endless needs, the chaos of raising little ones… it’s easy to lose sight of us. But here’s the part I never want to forget, even in the hardest seasons, you can fall in love again and again. 🤍”
The Bachelor Nation star continued, explaining how she and Adam continue to fall in love with each other through the challenges.
She said, “Not in the big, sweeping moments, but in the stolen glances, the late-night laughs, and the quiet decision to choose each other, no matter how tired we are. Because love isn’t a one-time vow, it’s the everyday choice to see each other, hold each other, and grow together. BOTH of us. 🤍”
Fellow Bachelor Nation stars filled the comments of Raven’s post, including Adam, who wrote, “🥹🥹🥹.”
Jason Tartick also chimed in, writing, “This is beautiful” and Jasmine Goode added, “🥹❤️.”
So sweet! We’ve loved watching Raven and Adam’s story unfold over the years, and we can’t get enough of their love for each other.
We’re so excited for all that the future holds for them. Cheers to their beautiful marriage!