Why Becca Kufrin Wants Everyone to 'Spread a Little Kindness'
Becca Kufrin doesn’t need any filters to send a positive message about self-love and respecting others.
On Wednesday, the Season 14 Bachelorette posted a photo of herself in bed with her (adorable) puppy Minno as part of the #AsSheIs challenge. The viral hashtag and social media movement’s purpose is to remind each other that “we all have insecurities and bad days despite how happy and confident we may appear online.” Women across the world have been partaking in the #AsSheIs movement, sharing unfiltered photos of themselves and appreciating their natural beauty.
In her caption, Becca wrote at length about how not everything portrayed on social media is equivalent to real life, and that it’s wrong to bully strangers online. She began, “#AsSheIs. You don’t need me to remind you, but life can be rocky. People can be harsh. In our current climate, the internet can often times be the biggest weapon against our soul. Social media has taken over and will only keep growing. Because of that, so will our insecurities, jealousies and hurdles we face as women.”
She called it an “unfortunate truth” that social media can be a place of so much negativity, including “a significant increase in anxiety, depression, suicide and body image issues.”
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Becca shared how her life in the public eye has brought negative comments about her and her relationships. She wrote, “Nothing could prepare me for the amount of constant commentary and opinions being thrown at me. This feedback not only includes criticism on my love life, but on how I look, speak, dress, and apply (or don’t apply) my makeup. And, at times it’s downright hindering.”
Becca said the barrage of criticism sometimes caused her to have “days where I didn’t want to leave bed because of the anxiety I felt on a social scale… Many of us feel like we are drowning because we have to live up to some unattainable social goal.”
The Minnesota native urged people to “change this.” She continued, “Let’s all take a step back and maybe NOT type a rude comment, or hit ‘send’ with demeaning words into someone’s DMs. Who are we to judge another person by the makeup she puts on, how white our teeth are, or if we forgot to wash our hair for six days straight?”
She said that women in particular “need to do a better job of building ALL humans up, of using our voices to support one another no matter our education level, ethnicity, background, etc.” Becca urged everyone to “focus on the positives of individuals and spread care, because if not, the pressures of being perfect, and anxieties when we aren’t, will only consume us.”
Becca reiterated the point that “Instagram is not reality” and it “does not define who we are to our core.” However, one comment or a compilation of many “can leave a lasting impact.”
The 29-year-old concluded, “So spread a little kindness, tell a stranger how contagious her smile is in a recent photo, double tap a compliment, and remember to go easy on others and yourself.”
Becca isn’t the only member of Bachelor Nation to speak out about the facades of social media. In September, Kaitlyn Bristowe posted a video where she talked about how an Instagram filter is called a “filter” for a reason. She said, “I’ve got lines under my eyes, I’ve got brown spots, I’ve got zits, I’ve got it all. We’re all human and we can all have the perfect airbrush filter if we want to. I just don’t want you to think that’s achievable because, I mean, it’s not.”
Fellow Bachelorette Hannah Brown has also spoken and written at length about the differences between social media and real life. In August, Hannah shared a picture of herself dancing on the beach, and one person commented, “hope you’re TRULY happy and not pretending for IG.” Hannah replied, “I’m not pretending for instagram. That doesn’t help me or others. I didn’t even say I was necessarily happy—I have happy moments and find joy in those.”