Ali Fedotowsky-Manno Opens Up About Suffering a Miscarriage
Ali Fedotowsky-Manno revealed the heartbreaking news Tuesday evening that she had suffered a miscarriage. Ali posted on her Instagram Story recently about feeling down, but didn't divulge the reason until now.
Ali opened up in a long note on Instagram, also explaining why she initially "didn't want to share" such a personal experience, but ultimately decided to do so. Ali wrote it was because she wanted "to let others know who have experienced pregnancy loss know that I see you & feel you."
She revealed, "I’m not sharing this bc I feel sorry for myself or I want others to tell me they feel sorry for me. I don’t feel sorry for myself. I feel sad for what could’ve been. Sad for the baby that was growing inside me. Sad because it’s sad. I want to share this because I think it’s important."
Ali explained she felt "uplifted and encouraged" by changes in social media in that it can now be a place "where people share the good & the bad - the smiles & the tears."
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Though Ali is "not ready to fully talk about" the miscarriage, she described some details about the harrowing day.
"It happened early one morning when I had intense cramping. I passed the gestational sac - which was the size of a plum - in my bedroom," she shared. "I was in complete shock when it happened. I sat and stared at it for hours - not able to fully comprehend what happened. And the utter exhaustion that took over my body in the few days after that was almost debilitating."
She continued, "We all go through different emotions & process the loss differently. I know that my loss is not the same as someone who’s had a stillbirth or lost a baby at 20 weeks. Or someone who has been trying to conceive for years. But what I found so shocking about my experience is that it affected me so much harder than I could have imagined."
After she published her initial post, Ali wrote a comment thanking those who reached out to her. She wrote, "The truth is, I didn’t want to share this. I’ve gone back-and-forth in my head on whether or not I was going to at least 100 times over the last two weeks. But almost all the reasons I didn’t want to share, ended up being the exact reasons why I knew I needed to."
She opened up about feeling "grief and shame," adding, "I never quite realized part of that shame was feeling like you didn’t deserve support afterwards. So thank you for reminding me and helping me see that it’s OK to feel supported in this moment."
Many of Ali's fellow Bachelorettes, Bachelor Nation members, fans, family, and friends sent their love and prayers to her and her family. They thanked her for sharing her story because, as one fan wrote, "You never would have known what pain you have been going through by watching your insta stories. This is such a great reminder that we don’t know what’s going on behind the camera and to always choose kind."
On May 30, Arie Luyendyk Jr. and his wife Lauren posted a YouTube video announcing that Lauren had had a miscarriage. Their video description read, "We were planning to share our journey through pregnancy with you, but unfortunately we didn’t get the happy story we had hoped for. We decided to share this part of our journey with you, because well, we share everything with you! But also because we hope that by talking about this we can make other couples going through these times a little less lonely."
Ali and her husband Kevin Manno have two kids, Molly, 4, and Riley, 2.