Ben Higgins Explains Why It Was Important for Ex Lauren Bushnell to Read His Book 'Alone in Plain Sight'
Ben Higgins revealed in a new interview why it was important for his ex-fiancée, Lauren Bushnell, to read his debut book, “Alone in Plain Sight: Searching for Connection When You’re Seen but Not Known.”
“I wrote [the chapter about Lauren] because it is a part of my story. My life doesn’t fully make sense unless you know the entirety of my story,” the beloved Bachelor Nation figure told Us Weekly ahead of the book’s February 2 release. “So, I wrote it and then I sent it over.”
Before reaching out about “Alone in Plain Sight,” Ben told the outlet that they “hadn’t really spoken” since calling it quits nearly three years ago. According to the new author, Lauren was “super gracious” for the heads-up that he was including memories from their relationship in his book.
“She read it and she was, like, encouraging [about it]. One, because there is no ill will. She’s married and pregnant and life’s good,” he said of the blonde beauty, who is expecting a baby boy with her husband, country singer Chris Lane.
Ben — who plans to marry his fiancée, skin care influencer Jessica Clarke, in November — continued, “I’m engaged and super happy and life’s great. And, like, there’s no resentment or hard feelings there. When I wrote it, it was coming from a place of being healed and fully aware of how it all progressed, and how good it all progressed for both of us. And so, she was encouraging in it.”
Ben proposed to Lauren at the end of his journey as the Season 20 Bachelor. The pair hardly had a break from reality TV, as they signed on to their own docuseries, “Ben & Lauren: Happily Ever After?” — which premiered on Freeform just months after their engagement aired on the “Bachelor” finale in the spring of 2016. Ben and Lauren eventually broke up in May 2017.
“I hope people read [the chapter] and just go like, ‘Hey, breakups suck no matter what, but they don’t have to be contentious. They don’t have to be ugly forever. They don’t have to be resentful forever, like, in fact, it’s really good when there’s healing forgiveness and people can move on,’” Ben told Us Weekly. “And I hope people read that and see that within that chapter, like, it’s all good. … When you’re in it, it’s terrible. When you’re fresh from it, it hurts. And then over time, you see the light.”
During his recent appearance on the “Click Bait with Bachelor Nation” podcast, Ben shared more insight into his and Lauren’s decision to split. He explained that the pressure that came with filming their spin-off series, which only ran for one season, contributed to their demise as a couple.
“We weren’t prepared to be teammates in that. If anything, we walked into [the show] still getting to know each other,” he said. “It’s almost weird looking back on it. Yes, it was a show about us. But at the same time, we didn’t know anything about each other. And it’s really hard to do that with a show, to have direct communication when there’s a camera right there.”
Ben elaborated, “I don’t want to call you out for this right now or ask you this question because it’s not going to look good. And she was saying the same thing, so it just ended up pulling us apart. But I think it pulled us apart for the right reasons.”