October 27, 2021 • bachelor insider
EXCLUSIVE: Diggy Moreland Opens Up About First-Time Fatherhood and Shares His Parenting Advice
Fans first met Bachelor Nation star Diggy Moreland on Season 13 of “The Bachelorette,” and he returned to our screens for Seasons 4 and 5 of “Bachelor in Paradise.”
Since his time on Bachelor franchise shows, Diggy has found love with his girlfriend Jen, and the two welcomed a baby girl in June 2021.
Now, nearly five months after his daughter Teddie Reese Moreland was born, new dad Diggy is still on cloud nine!
Diggy is sitting down exclusively with BachelorNation.com to discuss all things parenting, raising a biracial daughter, and the story behind Teddie Reese’s name. (Yes, it involved Reese’s Peanut Butter Cups…)
Check out Diggy’s entire interview — including whether or not he’d let Teddie go on “The Bachelor” one day — below!
Bachelor Nation: What has life been like since welcoming your daughter Teddie?
Diggy Moreland: It’s been crazy, insane, chaotic, and essentially is exactly what I thought it would be. It’s been weird, because I did no preparation. I wasn’t one of those people that was like, “Oh yeah, let’s take a parenting 101 class.” Instead we’re just flying by the seat of our pants and making it work. And so far it’s been working!
BN: Totally. You can prepare as much as you want, but nothing is like the real thing! What has your favorite part of fatherhood been so far?
DM: Seeing her evolve. In the first month, she just ate and slept and cried, but over time, she’s evolving into somebody who can hold her head up. She’s actually eating out of the bottle now and stuff like that. The best part is just knowing that we’ve come so far in such a short period of time, so seeing her progression has been the best part.
BN: Those are some exciting milestones! Are there any other upcoming milestones you’re looking forward to?
DM: Her being able to sit up! That will be huge because now I feel like when I’m holding her and I need to do something, I have to try to reach while still holding her. Eventually I’ll be able to sit her down and she will be able to stay there. It’s the little things! She’s also getting better with knowing her name, though I don’t know if she’s answering to her name or if she just hears a noise and turns. I say Teddie and she’ll turn, but I can also probably say banana and she’d turn too.
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BN: I’m sure she’s getting to know your voice if nothing else! Do you think parenthood has changed you in ways you didn’t necessarily expect?
DM: Yeah, definitely. I think it’s made me more emotional. I’m a guy, so it’s not like I don’t share my feelings, but I wasn’t always as good about saying them out loud. But now, Teddie is at day care full time some days and I miss things like having lunch with her and going for our afternoon walks together when she’s at day care. Having a daughter has really brought out the emotional side of me. Not only just having a kid but a daughter specifically has brought out that kind of emotional side that I feel like only a daughter could do.
BN: That is really sweet. We love a girl dad! What have been some of the more challenging parts of parenting so far?
DM: The hardest part is saying no. Before, I could reschedule things or move plans around, but now my plans go out the window. It’s all about her. She has to nap at the same time because we’re trying to get her on a sleep schedule. And I also manage the fact that my girlfriend Jen has a life too. I don’t want her to be the one that always has to say no to her friends or family because I want to go play golf or see friends. So the hardest part is realizing, wow, this is no longer about me. That and managing how I’m going to make sure I keep Teddie’s mom 100 percent sane.
BN: We love the name Teddie Reese. How did you and Jen come up with it?
DM: When I was younger, around 15 years old, I was like, “If I have a girl, I’m going to name her Mackenzie.” I didn’t realize at the time that it was a two-way street and a decision with your partner (laughs). So when Jen found out she was pregnant, we would just text names back and forth and keep a list. One day out of nowhere, she just texts me and says, “What about Teddie?” She really liked it and at that point we had already considered Mackenzie, but I could tell she wasn’t 100 percent on board. So I was like, “Damn, I really like Teddie! Teddie is supergirl!” And by around month six, we were pretty much fully in on Teddie and by month eight we were calling her Teddie.
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BN: It’s a great name! We love it.
DM: Thank you! And once we agreed on Teddie, we started coming up with middle names, because the first name and the middle name have to flow. She had thrown the name Reese out earlier on in her pregnancy for a first name. And when Teddie was born and we were discussing middle names, Jen was like, “What about Reese?” And no lie, at the time, I was eating Reese’s Peanut Butter Cups and I was literally holding one. I love peanut butter and I love Reese’s, so when we were preparing to go to the hospital, I took a couple of packages with me. And when she threw the name Reese out there, I was eating one and said, “Wow. That’s a sign.” So we went with it.
BN: What a fun story! And sounds like you definitely need some free Reese’s now that it’s your daughter’s namesake! Is there something that you hope to teach Teddie and instill in her as a person?
DM: A few things. Start with number one: how to dress. That is going to be huge. You’ve gotta feel good about yourself in your clothes and you’re going to take my last name, I need you to know how to dress. I’m the one who dresses her now. Then number two, I really want her to be empathetic. I think a lot of people now only think about themselves and don’t think about other people. I want her to think about how other people feel and take other people’s feelings into consideration. It’s important to know how people are going to be affected by your actions. Then for number three, my girlfriend is white, so she’s mixed, but to the naked eye she looks Black. I need her to know that whatever she does, she’s going to be judged and stereotyped, so I always want her to put her best foot forward and put herself in the best light possible. And lastly, number four, I need her to be funny because if you’re not going to be funny, it’s going to be a long 18 years!
BN: Those are some great lessons. Obviously, parenthood is a partnership. How do you and Jen juggle your roles as mom and dad? Do you split up duties in any particular way?
DM: We split things up pretty evenly. Jen does all the breastfeeding because, well, I tried that once and it did not work successfully (laughs). But in this new generation, I think we’re wiping away the stereotypes that the dad provides the money and the mom takes care of the house, which includes the kids. Gender roles have shifted, so we share all that stuff. I change diapers, I shop for Teddie, I do all of that kind of stuff. Jen does a lot of the cooking, but we share responsibilities. It’s all about balance.
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BN: Speaking of balancing, how are you balancing work with being a parent?
DM: It’s been... different. My job is actually really flexible since I work in sales and I work from home. I mean, they were flexible enough to let me go on national television a few times and get rejected a few times, then come back to my day job. Most of what I do isn’t very rigid, so I can do it whenever. I just have to get it all in. It’s a lot of sleepless nights, early mornings, and late nights. They say sleep when the baby sleeps, but I’m typically working when Teddie sleeps, and then if I find a chance to nap or have some caffeine, I do that when I can.
BN: Do you have any tips for new parents?
DM: Yes, I have a few. Tip number one: Say yes to the epidural. Don’t go into it thinking you’re not going to take that epidural because then you just setting yourself up for failure. Fifteen minutes into contractions, you’re going to ask for the epidural! Number two: Parenting is a two-way street. Communicate. I would say the best thing about Jen and I is that we are always there for each other. If she’s been with Teddie all day, and being with a newborn all day can be really draining, I’ll always ask if she wants me to take her for a few minutes so she can have some alone time. She doesn’t always say yes, and vice versa, but we are always available for each other and communicate. Number three: Do not make a formal plan on how your day or week is going to go, because for months on end, it has never gone as planned. Someone will need a last-minute change or be having a blowout, so just accept that you’re going to be late to events. That’s definitely tip number four. Know you’re going to be late to everything if a baby is involved. And the last tip: Just enjoy! Take lots of pictures and do not feel like you need to parent like other people do. I actively try to ask other people for tips so I can ignore those tips.
BN: Any specific tips for other parents whose kids were born during the pandemic?
DM: Just roll with it. There’s nothing you can do about it. It’s going to be different than you expected, but you just gotta roll with it. Even outside the pandemic, there’s so much going on with the state of our country, so just always make the best decision for you and your family. Don’t worry about what other people think. Just trying to make your kid’s life as happy and normal as possible for them. It’s crazy that Teddie doesn’t know a time without masks and may not for a while. But all I can say is try to make the experience as normal as you can for your child and for yourself, for your own sanity.
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BN: Those are some great tips! You have such a beautiful family and relationship; would you say that your experience in the Bachelor franchise helped lead you to where you are today?
DM: It definitely made me more open and open to relationships. I mean, you can’t get any more vulnerable than trying to find love on national television. And coming out of that experience, it made me really, really open and willing to try to find a relationship.
BN: I have to ask, would you ever let Teddie go on “The Bachelor” when she’s old enough?
DM: Oh, gosh. I don’t want to be that parent that says, “No, you can’t do this,” because I know they’re going to do it. So I would probably just say, “Hey, here’s what to expect if you decide to do it.” We’ll see what happens, but I would definitely not put a hard stop to it. I would just let her know what she’s opening herself up to.
BN: Are you watching Michelle’s season now?
DM: I like to live tweet a lot of the episodes, but I’ve just been too busy with Teddie to watch Michelle’s season in real time so far. I’ll be able to make it eventually and I think it’s funnier when I just jump in the middle of the season, so watch out. I might just tweet like 10 minutes before, saying, “Hey, guys, I’m going to watch tonight with you guys!”