December 17, 2021 • bachelor insider
Joe, Natasha, & Tia Discuss Navigating Relationship Questions from Family During the Holidays
The holiday season is officially here! That means delicious food, colder weather, and time with loved ones are upon us.
And while we are all grateful to be able to spend time with family and friends, especially after the past couple years amid a pandemic, reuniting with family comes with both pros and cons.
While we can’t wait to enjoy some holiday desserts together, we could do without great-aunt Susan’s questions about why we aren’t married yet or why we don’t have kids…
And this week, the “Click Bait with Bachelor Nation” co-hosts Joe Amabile, Natasha Parker, and Tia Booth broke down how they navigate these uncomfortable questions during family holiday gatherings.
Natasha asked her co-hosts if their family ever bothers them with these questions, and everyone said yes.
Tia started off, saying, “I would rather be asked, ‘When are you two getting married?’ rather than ‘When are you going to get a boyfriend?’ or ‘Why are you still single?’ It’s always like the older ones, like grandparent age, that aren’t even your grandparents.”
Joe agreed, saying, “It’s always so judgmental, too. I remember being 16 and they would be like, ‘How do you not have a girlfriend yet?’! And I would be like, ‘I don’t know. What do you want me to do right now? I’m trying to figure out life. I’m 16.’”
Joe continued, revealing that while growing up, he would get that question constantly from family and close friends.
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The Bachelor Nation star said, “I remember having older cousins and friends and if they were 18 or 19 in a relationship, it was someone they planned on marrying. To me that just never felt right. It just wasn’t my path. I would stop going to family parties sometimes because I would get annoyed at that question. It made me feel embarrassed and like I was not good enough or there was something wrong with me. That wasn’t the case, but people try to put their life experiences onto yours, which isn’t how it should work.”
Tia agreed and shared how as a woman in her 30s, she sometimes feels similarly when asked about having kids.
She said, “As women in our 30s, people are always like, ‘You need to hurry up and get married so you can have babies,’ and this timeline has to be perfect and as expected. It’s a lot of pressure from other people that we’re not even putting on ourselves.”
And while Natasha agreed, she said she is actually grateful to be single, and at 33 years old, she said she knows a lot more about herself than she did even just a few years ago.
Natasha explained, “The growth that I have had in the last three years, it’s so massive. I know myself and I am such a nurturing, caring person that if I had a husband, I would always be focusing on how to help him. So much of me is given to others. This time has been a selfish, self-love time where I’ve grown so much. I’m normally just giving and giving, so for our single ladies who are listening, I feel like maybe there is a place of growth that you’re still needing to move through or maybe you’re figuring out balance within yourself.”
The Bachelor Nation star offered some more advice to anyone dealing with these questions from family members, saying not to worry about what they have to say and to recognize “you have to arrive at a certain level of self-love to know what you can give to someone else.”
Say it louder for the people in back, Natasha! Those are some words of wisdom!
To hear more of Natasha, Joe, and Tia’s conversation on the “Click Bait with Bachelor Nation” podcast, check out the full episode below.
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