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“Talking It Out with Bachelor Nation” co-hosts Mike Johnson and Bryan Abasolo are known for keeping it real.

The two frequently discuss dating, relationships, and more on their podcast, and now they’re answering your burning questions.

Bryan and Mike sat down exclusively with BachelorNation.com to answer questions from Bachelor Nation fans about their specific dating scenarios.

Check out their advice below and let us know if you agree!

Bachelor Nation Fan: What advice do you have for being burned out on first dates?

Mike Johnson: Stop doing them. You don’t have to say yes to everything. You can stop going on dates and just focus on yourself, that’s what I would say!

BNF: I matched with a co-worker on a dating app; should I go on a date with them?

Bryan Abasolo: Terrible idea, do not do it. I think everybody out there knows the saying, “don’t sh*t where you eat.” You just don’t do that because if things go south, it’s just going to affect your job. So unless you’re willing to lose that job, I wouldn’t do it because there is that possibility.

MJ: I absolutely agree with Bryan. There are certain places that are off limits — where you go to the gym, where you go to church, even sometimes your grocery story, your apartment complex, if you live in an apartment.

BA: We actually talked about this the other day, Mike. I think it would be okay and even beneficial to meet someone in a workout class, where it’s more interactive. It can be a social environment where going up to someone is okay. But just going up to someone while they’re working out and in their zone is definitely not a good idea. And as for the grocery store, come on — you can find another grocery store if necessary!

MJ: I mean, you can go to another grocery store, but for me, I live in Texas and there is my one favorite grocery store here. So when it comes to my favorite store, it’s a no!

BNF: It’s been three years and the person I’m dating still won’t define the relationship. Is this a red flag?

MJ: Hell yeah, that’s a red flag! That’s every shade of red.

BA: It’s all about communication. I mean, if you ask, you’ll get the answer. You know what I mean?

MJ: Silence is acceptance, so while you may be thinking one thing, the person you’re dating knows exactly what it is which is a situationship.

BA: My question is, what have you been talking about for three years, then?! That’s mind boggling.

BNF: Should I expect my fiancé to delete pictures of their ex off of their Instagram page once we’re engaged?

BA: It sounds like it could be an insecurity thing on your end. I personally wouldn’t care if they have pictures from when they first started Instagram, and now we’re engaged and getting married. But at the same time, I see it from their point of view. I wouldn’t have an issue deleting old pictures from my Instagram, if necessary. If that is a really big issue for you, ask. It should be a no-brainer.

MJ: Instagram started back in 2012 and it’s funny because now people just like their pictures and that’s why they keep them up. They might not even like the person they’re in the picture with. Now they have apps to edit that person out! I mean, if I met my girl and she had these kind of pictures up, it is what it is. I’d rather her have pictures of her ex on her IG than a tattoo of her ex.

BNF: How do I stop reverting to my ex after breakups with other people?

BA: Well, I mean, the ex must be doing something right if they keep on going back, right?! But at the same time, if you’re trying to move on from that person, obviously that’s counterproductive. So, yeah, I would just phase them out of your life and just continue going out and searching for somebody new.

MJ: The thing with relationships and exes is when we are in a bad relationship and decide to stay, it’s because we’re comfortable there. It feels familiar, so doing the same thing over and over is just an exercise. I think you need to realize that while it may be comfortable and familiar, going back to your ex isn’t serving you. Part of self love is putting yourself first.

BNF: Why do you think someone would block me after a perfectly good first date and plans to hang out again?

MJ: Maybe because it wasn’t perfect!

BA: Something must have gone wrong, as great as it might have seemed. Or I mean, listen, I would honestly take that as a sign and as a blessing. That person may have blocked you because maybe they have a whole other family or relationship elsewhere. I would just keep it moving. It was one date. Onto the next.

BNF: Do you have any tips for moving in with your partner?

MJ: So many! The biggest things that we all know are effective communication and patience. Say things if they annoy you upfront rather than waiting three years down the line until you continue to let them boil up.