The four women discussed parenting tips and how to maintain a healthy sex life after having kids, and then Krystal discussed an aspect of her past she hopes will change once she has children of her own.
She explained, “Chris and I have been focusing this period of our lives — since the day we got back from our wedding — where we decided we wanted to become parents. What brought us together was growing up without our dads and coming from these broken families.”
Krystal revealed that this commonality brought them together and “actually instilled a lot of triggers and patterns that we identified.” She said, “Before we become parents, we need to hash this out personally and in our relationship. We don’t want to be passing down these unconscious ways in how we react and respond to people.”
The fitness and life coach brought up the book she’s reading and talked about how it resonates with her. According to Krystal, Mark Wolynn’s book “It Didn’t Start with You” is “all about family trauma and how it’s literally passed down through the egg and the sperm before conception. It goes into three generations.”
She dubbed it “the most fascinating book” because it reveals that “you can carry on genetically these patterns from deceased family members who lived with secrets and shame and didn’t resolve what they needed to resolve in that lifetime.” Krystal noted this felt accurate when she recalled events from her past: “Every time I’ve been short and reactive, I think it’s because I didn’t feel safe as a child, because my mom didn’t feel safe as a child, and her mom didn’t feel safe as a child.”
Chris and Krystal have reportedly been working on themselves, and it’s brought them together in an intense and spiritual way. Jade enthusiastically agreed with Krystal’s statements and said she must be Krystal’s “soul sister.” Jade revealed, “I keep telling [my husband] Tanner that my duty in life is to become the chain-breaker in my family. The best thing you can do for your children is to heal yourself.”
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