Why Rachel Lindsay Says the 'Odds Are Against You' on 'Bachelor' Shows
"Bachelor" shows create relationships that likely never would have occurred in the day-to-day world outside the Bachelor Mansion gates. The franchise brings people together from all over in the hopes of finding love, and many do. However, even when couples get their happily ever after, these relationships still require effort.
Rachel Lindsay spoke candidly on a new episode of "Bachelor Happy Hour" about her relationship with husband Bryan Abasolo and the differences between perception and reality after the show. Bryan, Becca Kufrin and Garrett Yrigoyen joined the discussion and agreed with Rachel’s opinions.
The Season 13 Bachelorette spoke to fans directly in her remarks. "What you also don’t realize is all the odds are against you. You are not meant to have a successful relationship," she explained. "So, when you see it happen, please know that the work was put in to make that relationship successful."
Rachel then asserted, "It’s not like this magical experience. You have to watch your significant other navigate 30-plus other relationships. You have to relive that experience when you’ve been living outside of it for months. You have to deal with millions of people’s outside opinions on your relationship."
As if dealing with viewers and significant others isn't enough, there's also the matter of family. Rachel shared her own experiences when she brought Bryan home on "The Bachelorette." She said, "I remember for us, my dad was like, 'You guys are infatuated with each other. Give it a year and we’ll see where you are.'"
She stated, "You’re trying to convince so many people of what you have. It’s honestly easier to just give up."
Bryan chimed in and mention the oft-repeated question they receive: "Is this real? Is 'The Bachelorette' real?"
Becca responded, "They think it’s all scripted and fake and you have this certain timeframe or contract and when it’s done, you do whatever."
Earlier in the episode, Rachel opened up about the initial adversity she faced after going public with her relationship with Bryan. She shared, "I got so much backlash for picking Bryan even though I knew my decision, and I knew I made the right decision."
After a series of interviews when her season ended, Rachel revealed she broke down and cried because "everybody was asking us questions about the guy I didn't pick." She said about one particular moment with Bryan, "I was so frustrated, and we just held each other in that moment and were like, 'It’s us against the world. We know what we have. We need to ignore all the outside noise and be a united front and face this together.'"
To hear more about their experiences on and after "The Bachelorette," be sure to listen to the full "Bachelor Happy Hour" episode now. Don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you listen to podcasts!