July 07, 2020 • bachelor insider
Clare Crawley Shares Powerful Letter About Finding Her 'True Self'
Clare Crawley is sharing a powerful message that resonates with her and her journey to where she is today.
On Tuesday, the Season 16 Bachelorette posted a photo of herself in red yoga pants and a white sports bra looking out at the bright blue sky. Clare appears pensive and hopeful in the photo, and her caption, which is a quote by the author Ruby Dhal, illustrates those same feelings.
It begins, "Dear self- I want to thank you. You walked on so many difficult journeys these past few years. You fought battles- with those who love you, and with those whom you love. You were let down time and time again, but you didn’t let it shatter your faith in relationships, in love."
The letter goes on, "You’ve had to prove your worth to those unworthy and you were broken – more than words can explain but you have been reborn. You found your true self and changed the meaning of your life – turning it into something beautiful, into something worth living! So, I want to say that I’m proud of you."
Her caption concludes, "I know how hard it has been. I cannot thank you enough for taking care of me. I promise that I will continue to take care of you too. Just keeping strong. For me. Keep going. Keep on fighting. You know you can do this."
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Clare’s Instagram post aligns with the same message she’s been sharing ever since being announced as the Bachelorette. She commits herself to being a strong woman and remains dedicated to self-love and empowerment. Clare has also opened up about her past relationships and how they’ve shaped her into the woman she is today.
She told Becca Kufrin and Rachel Lindsay in her "Bachelor Happy Hour" interview, "Coming off of Juan Pablo’s season, I was weak. I didn’t know who I was. I wasn’t self-aware. Now, coming from there and doing the work all in my 30s, I’m an empowered woman now, and a strong woman. I would say even more than being a strong woman — because I’m not always strong — more than anything, I’m a courageous woman now. Even when I’m weak, I still have the courage in myself to do hard things."
Because of these experiences, Clare feels confident about what she deserves in a relationship. Plus, her age could hardly make a difference.
"I laugh at people when they say, 'I can’t believe you’re 39 and single! You’re desperate,' or this or that," she said on the podcast. "The best piece of advice I can say is I personally would rather be spending 20 years with the man of my dreams being wholly loved for who I am rather than 50, 60 years with the wrong man."
She admitted on "Bachelor Happy Hour" that some of her friends encouraged her to "settle," but Clare doesn't see being "picky" as a downfall. Clare said, "I would rather love myself enough by myself than to be with the wrong person because trust me, I have been with the wrong person. I have been in those relationships and they are exhausting and draining. They deplete and take away from who you are."
As Clare prepares for her journey as the Bachelorette, one thing is certain: she’s going to find love her way and she won’t let anybody stop her from her happiness.