This Week in Bachelor Nation History: Andi Sends Chris Home on 'Make or Break' Date
Andi Dorfman walked into Fantasy Suite week knowing she had some major decisions to make, perhaps the biggest one revolving around Chris Soules.
Andi adored meeting Chris' family during Hometown Dates and caught a glimpse of what life would be like on his Iowa farm were they to end up together. She took that vision with her to the Dominican Republic for her Fantasy Suite dates, which aired July 14, 2014, on Season 10 of "The Bachelorette."
The attorney felt confident in her other two relationships, but admitted early on in the episode, "I don’t know if I’m at a point in my relationship with Chris if I feel comfortable spending the night with him."
She repeated that sentiment throughout their day, which contrasted with Chris' admissions that he was falling in love with the Bachelorette.
Andi said, "To me, the Fantasy Suite isn’t just some date. It means a lot more to me than that. I'm still not sure if Chris and I are at that point yet. I'm waiting for something to sway me in one way or another because I don’t know what to do at this point yet. This is a make or break date for Chris and I."
He said in a separate interview, "The Fantasy Suite would be huge for me, especially thinking about engagement and potentially spending the rest of our lives together. There's no question that I'm in love with Andi, everything she is, and everything she strives to be. I've thought about our future and thought about what it would look like with her as my wife."
They spent the day horseback riding and enjoying a picnic outside. During the nighttime portion, they returned to their hotel and sat down for what would turn out to be a fateful conversation for Chris.
Andi admitted to the farmer that she had some reservations about moving to Iowa.
"I think I had so much fun being on the farm being on the farm, riding on the tractor, and being with your family," she said. "All of it was so fun and amazing, but is that everyday life? That’s a huge risk to take without knowing. It’s a huge difference."
Chris sympathized with her concerns, telling her "there's a lot of opportunities for really smart attorneys in Iowa." He also said he was "willing to make sacrifices."
Andi responded, "When you told me farming is in your blood, I don’t think that’s something negotiable for you. I don’t think it should be. What’s the risk? When do I find out if Iowa is right? It’s a lot to think about."
She then told him she felt like she reached a "crossroads" with him and "there's a struggle between seeing what an amazing person is right in front of me and also being unsure about it."
Chris professed his love to Andi and said, "All I want to do is fall in love with you, and that’s happening. There’s not one thing I would want to change. I truly mean that. I know that when we’re together, there’s a certain chemistry that I feel."
The Season 10 Bachelorette began crying and tearfully told him, "Part of the realization is being here and not feeling that and hearing the things you say and not feeling the same things you're feeling. I'm trying to make it better, and I could sit here and blame it on Iowa and take the easy way out and say, 'I can't see myself in Iowa,' which is partly true. There's also a part of me that knows a lot of this is because I don’t see the foundation with us."
She continued, "In all honesty, I don’t know if I see myself in Iowa, but there’s more to it. It’s not easy to hear and not easy to say, but I have more respect for you than to blame it Iowa. I don’t want to disrespect you. I don’t think I can sit here for days and make you wait for a Rose Ceremony. That’s not fair."
Andi repeated she just wanted to be honest with Chris, and he told her he felt "incredibly disappointed," but ultimately respected her decision.
"My head and heart don’t match up," she said. "It doesn’t match up."