March 17, 2021 • bachelor insider
Michelle Young Reflects on Her 'Really Difficult' Breakup with Bachelor Matt James
Michelle Young stopped by “Bachelor Happy Hour” to chat with Becca Kufrin and guest co-host Tayshia Adams about the conclusion of her journey on “The Bachelor” Season 25.
Naturally, the stunning schoolteacher reflected on her heartbreaking split from Matt James. “I didn’t know it was coming,” Michelle told Becca and Tayshia. “It was difficult, but I’m doing OK.”
After their final adrenaline-pumping date rappelling down the side of a chateau at Pennsylvania’s Nemacolin Woodlands Resort, Matt confessed to Michelle that he had doubts about their relationship. In an emotional exchange, the Bachelor told the standout contestant that he couldn’t see a future with her.
“After that breakup, it was really hard for me to get closure and there was a conversation that I wanted to have because I was really struggling,” said Michelle, who revealed on Monday night’s shocking “After the Final Rose” special that Matt rejected her request for a follow-up discussion for her to get “closure” and “inner peace” shortly after their breakup.
Matt apologized to Michelle during the “AFR” taping, telling her, “There’s no justification for why I didn’t have that conversation, and if I had known that this is how you were feeling in that moment, then I would have fought to have that conversation.”
During her “Bachelor Happy Hour” interview, Michelle recalled the tough time she had returning home after Matt pulled the plug on their romance.
“As I was coming back to Minnesota, leaving Pennsylvania, I felt like I was spinning in circles and I felt like I was trying to put the relationship down — and I had,” she said. “But, emotionally, I wasn’t able to move forward. It was really difficult. Because I wasn’t able to get that closure from Matt at that time, I think that was what was making it hard for me.”
However, Michelle said that Matt’s dismissal was a blessing in disguise, as it taught her how to rely on herself.
“The most valuable thing that I’ve actually learned from this process is that I now know that I can get the answers and closure within myself. Even walking on that stage for ‘AFR,’ I had the closure I needed,” she said. “I had some questions, but I also wasn’t putting the ability for me to get closure on Matt’s responses.”
Michelle added, “It was hard to sit down and have those conversations and get back into that headspace of leaving and what that felt like and the questions that I had at that time because, in the end, I had already given myself closure.”
The ultimate consolation prize came, though, when Michelle was named the next Bachelorette alongside fellow “Bachelor” Season 25 star Katie Thurston at the end of “AFR,” hosted by Emmanuel Acho. Katie’s Season 17 is currently underway in New Mexico and will premiere this summer, while Michelle will front Season 18 this fall.
Find out why Michelle is excited to lead the franchise by listening to her entire “Bachelor Happy Hour” episode below.