March 29, 2021 • bachelor insider
Danielle Maltby Shares Powerful Message About Grief 10 Years After Fiancé's Death
Danielle Maltby took to Instagram on Sunday to share a powerful message about grief, commemorating the 10-year anniversary of fiancé Nick Haag’s death.
“Today marks 10 years since my fiancé passed away. I’ve been thinking a lot about it again the last month. I was down at the beach a couple weeks ago having an early morning sit by the ocean and just started crying,” the “Bachelor” alum wrote alongside a selfie. “I had no idea why, and then it hit me. 10 years… a lot has changed in 10 years. SO MUCH has changed.”
She continued, “I am different in almost every way. I’ve done some incredible things and have some of the greatest humans in my life that wouldn’t be there, if things hadn’t gone the way they did 10 years ago.”
According to Nick Haag’s obituary, the musician passed away on March 28, 2011, in the emergency room of Wisconsin’s Waukesha Memorial Hospital. While competing for Nick Viall’s heart on Season 21 of “The Bachelor” in 2017, Danielle revealed that her fiancé died of a drug overdose, which she said took her by surprise, as she was unaware of his issues with substance abuse.
“Cue the grief guilt, or survivors guilt, it has a few names. This life I cherish wouldn’t exist right now,” Danielle added, offering consolation for those who have also lost loved ones. “To anyone who has lost someone, is working on getting through that time- its ok to be happy again. Its ok to laugh even if it makes you feel like crap at first. Its ok to feel heavy when your song comes on the radio. Its ok to sit and cry in the shower and its ok to scream in your car.”
The aesthetics nurse also reminded her followers — who have suffered similarly — to embrace happiness as it flows back into their lives.
“It is ok to have new feelings, its ok to love new friends and be forever grateful to the friends that were present and never let you feel alone during that time of loss, its ok to start over, it is ok to love and embrace a happy life and its ok to recognize the faults in that relationship,” she explained. “Its ok. Who ever you lost wants you to be happy and they want you to be happy for you.”
Danielle ended her note with encouraging words for Bachelor Nation — especially those who are having a tough time in the grieving process.
“It’s not an over night thing, there is no timeline when it comes to grief,” she wrote. “Give yourself the space to feel and heal and take multiple steps back and a few forward but you are allowed to feel happy.”
Check out Danielle’s entire post below.
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